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MP Wixted's avatar

We have a bathroom scale, which gets most use from my kids enjoying stepping on it and seeing it light up (also helpful in answering, are they close to the carseat weight limit?). Whenever they step on it, I say, "wow, look how you're growing! You're getting stronger every day."

Yesterday, my almost-3-year-old daughter turned to me and said, "your turn Mommy!" -- I inwardly groaned, knowing the combination of 6m post-partum with her little brother + holiday snacking would not yield a number I have been used to historically. But I didn't want her to see me reacting that way. I stepped on it. She said, "look how strong you are Mommy!" which made me smile. And then when the scale face blinked off, she added, "Thank you numbers!" which is in line with her current practice of thanking inanimate objects ("thank you shirt, I'm wearing you," "come on spoon, thank you spoon."). It gave me pause: "thank you numbers." Hey, she's right. These are numbers. Data points. Information, not judgement.

So as I'm working to create a judgement-free zone for her, she's helping build one for me, too!

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Ryan McCormick, M.D.'s avatar

Awesome post and message. Thank you for this. I can think of examples while growing up of adults/family modeling this naturally, and not.

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